If you are reading this, chances are you know that I lost a dear friend and brother Nathan Anderson in a motorcycle accident. He passed doing what he loved. At some point I will dedicate a second more detailed post to him, I’m just not quite there yet.
Last Thursday night around 11:15pm I had a knock on my door and it was cousin Jared. I opened the door and he said “We need to go to the hospital, NOW. There’s been an accident.” Upon arriving at the hospital, I walked into a room and saw 3 people. My Uncle Gerald and Aunt Ruby on one side, and Todd directly in front of me. I will never, ever, ever forget that particular moment, to see two parents who just found out that they lost their son, and a person who had witnessed what he had, and have something so terrible happen to a close friend, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. The pain on his face in in his cries was unforgettable.
I think for most of us it is easy to overlook, but lets not forget that as a witness, there is someone that feels a different type of pain than any of us can feel. That pain of “Its my fault” or “It should have been me”. The pain of watching something so tragic happen just feet away from you. I can’t imagine what that is like, and I want to tell Todd directly that God has a plan for all of us, and Nate had an incredibly full life, and it was in Gods plan that his time on this earth was to come to an end. I miss him dearly, and am looking forward to seeing him again one day.
Thank you all for keeping our families in prayer. Its been a tough time, but we are leaning on each other and making it through. Todd, you are in our prayers as well and I’m looking forward to the day when we can see Nate and laugh and smile together.
At some point in the future, I’d like to give Todd a chance to read some messages of support from friends, family, and those who knew him and Nate when he’s ready. Please leave a comment below.
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The following is from Candice Sterling:
The last couple days have been some of the most difficult we have
experienced. I lost a dear friend- who was more like family and my
husband, Todd Sterling has been experiencing a pain I cannot begin to
understand. There are so many questions that we have struggled with.
We are trying to hold to promise in God’s word that, “(he) would not
have (us) to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep,
that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we
believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep
in Jesus will God bring with Him.” 1 Thess. 4:13-14.
As many of you know, Todd was with Nathan at the time of the accident.
Many stories have circulated about details about that night. In an
attempt to honor the privacy of the family, I will not go into details
about the accident. But, I do want to clarify that this was not a
“hit and run.” The driver of the car did in fact stop and has
cooperated with officials.
Todd has been at home, taking things day by day. We are in awe at the
strength, grace and God-fearing posture the Anderson & Ottley families have taken.
The outpouring of love and support that we have received via text
message and email is greatly appreciated. Watching Todd struggle with
the layers of pain associated with this has been difficult. We wake up
each day and have to believe that God is ABLE.
Please keep us all in your prayers. I encourage you all to continue
spreading the true message that Christ is coming soon and its
imperative that we, like Nathan, live our lives each day to the
fullest.

Todd & Candace
I am continually holding you all in my heart – and will lift you all up as I go before God today. Stay strong and always keep God first. Love you all.
Todd;
Your testimony was such an inspiration. I was encouraged. Thanks for putting it in perspective for me. Not until your speech was I able to Praise God in the circumstance.
Thank you for being a trusted friend, and though the task was arduous, I praise God that you were there for Nathan.
Sending up prayers for you, praying the Comforters solace for you always. You are a man of God, blessed!
Continuing to lift you and your family up in fervent prayer.
djs
Todd & Candace
I am continually holding you all in my heart – and will lift you all up as I go before God today. Stay strong and always keep God first. Love you all.
Todd/Candace,
My soul is restless. As I try to understand ‘why,’ I can’t. Can’t seem to turn off that switch. What I’ve learned is that it is beyond me and you to know why things happen the way they do. I’ve written and re-written, thought and re-thought what I could possibly say that would ease your burden even for a moment. But I’m still coming up empty. Even stranger is the fact that your strength has been my solace. Not just for the loss of Nathan. You have taught me that our steps are ordered – in life, in death, in the boardroom or the classroom. I job is to Live, Love, and Leave a Legacy. Thank you. Blessings are all around us.